Experience Comes From Making Bad Decisions

                                                     

Good decisions come from experience. But experience comes from bad decisions.Learn from mistakes and move on. You have to learn something from your bad judgement to actually gain experience. To continue to good judgement, you have to act on the experience. In other words, you have to learn.

You have to make a decision and do something to get a result. If the result is beneficial, it was good judgement. If not, you now have the experience, provided you learn from it. However, in an attempt to save time, we rush it, and fail to give adequate consideration to the task at hand. When it goes badly, how do we determine what went wrong, and how to do better next time? What do we learn from this attempt, so that we may claim it as experience?

To claim a result as experience, and to help make better decision next time, we have to figure out what went wrong. Was it in our assumptions, or was it in our effort? Did we know all we needed, or did something unexpected happen? When we can answer that, and formulate a better plan, we have gained experience.

So as you look back at your life and think about some of the poor choices you have made, you might find yourself wondering exactly why you made those decisions that seem so poor now in retrospect. While it goes without saying that you will probably continue to make bad decisions, you can gain a deeper understanding of the process behind these sometimes irrational choices.

Surprisingly, people tend to have an inborn optimism trait which hampers good decision-making. However, when people are told that the risk of something bad happening is lower than they expected, they tend to then adjust their predictions to match the new information they learned. When they discover that the risk of something bad happening is actually much higher than they estimated, they tend to simply ignore the new information.

This isn't necessarily a matter of believing that things will just magically fall into place, but instead overconfidence in our own abilities to make good things happen. Because we are overly optimistic about our own abilities and prospects, we are more likely to believe that our decisions are the best ones.

Consistently making good decisions is arguably the most important habit we can develop, especially at work. There aren't many jobs left in the world today that don't require multi-tasking. While that's the reality, performance and decision-making effectiveness, suffers when we focus on multiple tasks at the same time. When we need to make important decisions, we need to commit our time to focus deeply on the task at hand.

While the decision-making process should be thorough, the best way to make good decisions is usually not to take more time or to look at more information. Rather, review the relevant data you need, set a deadline to make a decision, and then stick to it.

The decisions we make determine our reality. Inevitably, we all make some bad decisions at one point in our lives which contributes to our experience. But if we are aware of these, we can make better decisions that have a positive impact on the people we work with, and ultimately, on ourselves.

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Unleash the Power of Intuition

                                         

Power of intuition

Perceptions are the binoculars through which you usually see things. At times, the way things look is not the way things are but they are sighted to you the way you see them just because of your earlier perception based biases. Perceptions are deceptive as they tend to bend with incidences one goes around with.

However, there is one force deep within you that surpasses your perception and alters the feel into a stronger sense that is actually closer to the factuality; i.e., Intuition.

Intuition is a sense of alarm that helps our perception to direct the focus to the actual façade of the situation and enable you to form the positive judgments or decisions to act or remain inactive. The irony is that this is a forsaken trait by people and usually an individual who not only look for the earthly facts but also neglects the natural signaling which is the guided system to help you steer clear of upcoming dangers but also gives you inklings to the underlying goodness of an incidence.

Here the question arises that what we could do to get a handle on this boon. First of all, we must learn to pay heed to those inner voices within us which could either be the voice of your conscience or a pang in your stomach or whatever the shape it takes, it must be put forth to you before we could form an opinion or make any decision. Once we habituate ourselves with this act of listening to the sensory tiny voice, we would find ourselves in a better situation to analyze a situation and to evaluate the pros and cons of our reaction to that particular state of affairs.

What lies next to give our intuition a shot. Why call it a shot? As it may sometimes go off the hook or may go against your expectation as opposed to the prevailing paradigm of "A universal guidance system", but again this sense needs some time and experiments with its allowed proportion to failure in order to get strengthened up and let it establishes the best possible notions on the basis of which, it alters its course of inference so as to reach as close as possible to the reality-based decisions and map your mind into the right dimensions of psychics.

When this gut feeling is all nurtured up, it embodies the structured criterion within your mind to assess a case in point before getting down with a firm opinion or stronghold conclusion. So, now this is the time that you reaped what you harvested. You have successfully awakened the natural mechanism within yourself who mentors your true defined living standards, work patterns, habits forming or behavioral administration and that is the point where your maturity takes off the edge.

The power of intuition is infinite in nature and if further reinforced with advanced neuro-linguistic tools, it channels a sprout of energy in your self and assists you being an individual with extraordinary abilities which is commonly found in the world best leaders, founders or change agents as they possessed a firm control over their intuition and led a life filled with outstanding marvels, well-admired maneuvers, acknowledged services to the mankind.

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The Double Edge of Forgiveness

                                                             

Take a moment and think about the word, "forgiveness". What a wonderful word it is! How healing it is!

What emotions does such an activity stir in you? Do you find it fills you with a feeling of sweet security and well-being? Your conscience is clear and you have peace knowing that nothing is held against you. Can there be a word that expresses or encapsulates the love of our Heavenly Father more clearly? Yet forgiveness has two sides to it.

Remove the ending of the word and you are left with, "forgive". Now suddenly you are on the other side of the situation. Your emotions change as you contemplate whether, or not you are willing to let go of all the hurts you have held onto for years. Intense feelings rise-up and restrict your throat and possibly your breathing. Fear, anger, and rage fill your entire being. FORGIVE? How dare anyone suggest such a thing!

Forgiveness is often the last hurdle before we enjoy our healing. We struggle with forgiving those who have hurt us because we think to forgive means to say, "I am over the pain". Or we think to forgive means, "to let them off the hook; to let them away with it". You rationalize that your offender doesn't deserve your forgiveness. He hasn't come to you and begged forgiveness. Why would God command you to forgive someone so vile?

We want them to suffer as much as we have. Pride or fear often gets in the way of forgiving.

We are asked, rather commanded, to extend the same mercy to our offender that our Heavenly Father has extended to us.

Remove the first part of the word, "forgive" and you are left with "give". The word, "give" means "free gift." In giving a free gift, you expect nothing in return. A free gift can't be earned or paid for. It is an expression of love and mercy. We are never more like our Heavenly Father than when we extend mercy to someone who could never repay us for the mountain of emotional pain he or she has caused. God loved you so very much that He gave His only Son... (John 3:16)

Give the whole situation to God and let Him deal with your offender. He has said, "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay." He's got your back. He's on your side. He wants what's best for you. He knows that as long as you hold on to this bitterness you will struggle with one health issue after another. Maybe not immediately but it will eventually take its toll. You will never reach your full potential spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, intellectually or productively. Trust that God will give you the grace to forgive if you will commit to doing His will.

Crucial to forgiveness is the understanding of what it means to genuinely forgive and what it does not.

Forgiveness is not:

• Forgiveness is not just ignoring the pain.
• Forgiveness is not forgetting the hurtful incident.
• Forgiveness is not declaring the other person was right or what he did was OK.
• Forgiveness is not allowing the offender to control your life.
• Forgiveness is not saying you are over the pain.
• Forgiveness is not saying you forgive, while avoiding the offender.
• Forgiveness does not mean the offender should not have to pay the consequences of his actions.

Forgiveness is:

• Forgiveness is more for your benefit than for the benefit of your offender.
• Forgiveness means you are more interested in understanding why something happened than in getting even.
• Forgiveness states that the offender no longer owes you anything.
• Forgiveness means you are more concerned about moving ahead with your life than being controlled or restricted by your past.
• Forgiveness sets you free to move through the healing process.
• Forgiveness opens the door for God's blessing on your life.

Forgiveness, though very difficult, is essential to emotional healing.

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Five Quick Tips on How to Start the New Year

                                         

Several days into the New Year and you might already be feeling like you didn't start it right. For a lot of people, when the fireworks die down, they will still have to wake up to the same life, with the same job and aspirations. What should be different?

Your approach to the new year is what should be different. Instead of filling up a notebook with resolutions you feel half-hearted about, why not try something different?

Here are five tips on how you can start your year on the right track. If you're determined for your personal and professional growth this year, then these tips are for you.

1. Reflect on the previous year

The first step towards a better future is taking stock of what happened in the past. To say 2020 was a tough year is an understatement. Just like everybody else, you had to deal with a situation you could never have dreamed of, and that undoubtedly had a lasting effect on you.

Start with what you liked about the previous year. This can be hard, considering the year in question, but if you look back with an objective lens and a clearer view, you may notice some blessings you hadn't considered before. After all, hindsight is 20/20, right? (Pun intended)

As you do your reflections, here are some questions for you to consider:

What worked for you professionally?

What worked in your personal life?

What had you envisioned for the year versus where you are now?

Did you manage to pivot so you could still reach your goal?

What would you change about the way you handled the situation (think global, professional and personal situations)?

While this exercise requires you to be self-critical, be careful not to put yourself down. If there were situations you could have handled better, acknowledge that with respect and objectivity, not malice and self-hatred.

The right amount of self-criticism will wake you up and push you to be better. If you start feeling discouraged anytime during your reflection, remind yourself that you are still standing and you are actively working towards being better. That is the making of a strong individual.

2. Set your goals

Now that you have a clear understanding of what went right and what went sideways in the last year, you can move forward into your present and your future. Set your goals for the year and plan how you will achieve them.

After the reflection exercise, you may notice that you still have some outstanding goals from last year. Before you put them down as this year's goals, think carefully about why they are still outstanding and if they still align with your beliefs, or really something you want. What you wanted in the previous could have changed for many of reasons.

One thing that I find people are afraid to do is to let go. Sometimes your beliefs and aspirations change, especially when you have a life-altering experience. Letting go of your previous outlook can be scary, especially since it means embracing the unknown most of the time. However, keeping goals that no longer align with your true essence will only waste time and energy, both of which are vital resources you need to guard diligently and spend wisely.

That said, you can carry over any goals that still align with your purpose and are outstanding from the last year. Also, set any new goals you may have for this specific year.

There is a plethora of resources online on how to set SMART goals, or you can attend my Goal Setting Bootcamp that provide in-depth guidance on how to set powerful goals. Whichever you decide, do your research and give yourself an adequate amount of time to work on each one. It's important to pace yourself; the only race you're in is with yourself.

3. Cultivate your support system

This step is really important and it's one that gets overlooked most often. Looking at your list of goals, you may feel like you can achieve them all on your own. The idea of being "self-made" has been pushed down our throats for years now, and asking for help is seen as a weakness.

Nothing could be further from the truth!

No human being is an island. Unless you're a monk seeking enlightenment through solitude, isolating yourself for prolonged periods of time is a bad idea. Studies have shown that prolonged isolation can result in cognitive decline.

Michael Siffre, a French scientist and adventurer, shut himself up in a cave for six months as part of an experiment. By the end of the second month, he reported that he could "barely string thoughts together." And he still had four months to go!

Isolation is not only social. You could be surrounded by people and still feel a sense of isolation. It's harder to spot, but that's why this isolation is so insidious.

In a culture that is increasingly looking to cut people off, go against the grain and feed the relationships that are most important to you. Identify the people who have been instrumental in your life and make time for them. Allow them to support you, and in turn, support them.

Now, I understand that not everyone has someone to count on. That is why I am here to help you and mentor you towards your success. Send me a message outlining your mentorship needs and I can help you start with what you have.

4. Set a schedule

Here's a public secret: nothing gets done that you don't set time for. You know how people say they are busy all the time? Well, the truth is, whatever they put off with those two words "I'm busy" really just isn't a priority in their life. What you prioritize, you make time for.

Which brings us to this fourth tip. Create a schedule. And stick to it.

I know a lot of people hate schedules, preferring to go with the flow instead, and believe that a free-range approach is effective. However, in my experience, the free range approach rarely works, and when it does, it's only for small to intermediate goals. If your goals are big to the point where they scare you, then a schedule is your best friend.

First of all, your schedule tells you what's most important in the current season of your life. It also shows you exactly how much time you could be stealing away from your top priority through procrastination and other bad habits.

A schedule also helps you to cultivate the necessary discipline that every successful person has. Once you set your schedule and you stick to it, you gain a new-found respect for your time and energy, as well as for other people's time and energy.

Note: When setting your schedule, the goal is not to fill it with tons of things every single day. It's to create the kind of day you would find most meaningful and fulfilling. That includes talking to your friends, going out where possible, and spending time with family.

5. Detox from social media

Finally, it's important for you to start your year by taking time away from social media. The fear of missing out (FOMO) keeps us glued to our screens, mindlessly scrolling on social media timelines and consuming all kinds of content. The result? Information overload.

We live in the age of information, and there has been immense good done as a result of the technological advances made over the years. However, information overload has begun to pose serious issues in society. Information overload reportedly has terrible effects on the human brain, not least of which is decreased information retention and feeling burnt out (even when you haven't been all that productive).

A healthy way to start the year would be to go off the grid for some time, a weekend, a week or if you're really committed, a month. Take this time to reconnect with yourself, pick up a new hobby that doesn't require any gadgets, such as painting, reading or walking.

Some benefits of a social media detox include mood improvements, higher self-esteem and being more present as you connect more with the real world.

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You Will Get Your Downtime, One Way or Another

                                         

Sometimes, awful things happen to you.

Life can really suck sometimes.

When you find yourself in a situation where you wish life were giving you something as harmless as lemons, here's what to do.

There'll be intellectual factors to this situation. If you lose your job, for example, you'll need to make some plans. Things like making a budget and applying for new jobs.

File that under D for 'duh'.

What folks often forget are the emotional factors.

After getting sucker punched, right after you take care of any urgent issues, take some downtime.

Lie on the grass or stare at the wall.

It's easy to think of the cliché griever - someone who responds to having the floor drop out from under them by drinking themselves blind.

A less obvious one, but still a cliché, is the person who throws themselves into work. "I need this," they'll say.

These can be nothing more than attempts to escape from their unpleasant reality.

Hmm?

What's that?

You're not an alcoholic, workaholic or any kind of holic?

You do, in fact, enjoy plenty of downtime?

Great!

With or without a screen in your face, though?

Social media, reading, TV, video games, mindless web surfing - they're all distractions from the pain of it all.

And maybe you need a distraction right now.

Take the downtime first, though. Lock yourself in a room with nothing but your thoughts.

Lie on the floor and stare at the ceiling.

Don't think it's a waste of time - it's the most important thing you could do.

Don't think it's awkward, embarrassing or lazy.

There's no need to think at all if you don't want to.

Because here's the thing:

Your mind wants to process what happened. And, sure, you can bury your consciousness in distractions so you don't have to.

Processing is painful, after all.

You can't hold out forever, though.

You know those moments where your best ideas come to you? For plenty of folks, it's when they're drifting off to sleep, in the shower, on a long walk or driving a car. That's because these activities are mental downtime. They're so natural to you that your conscious mind can switch off, letting your unconscious creativity bubble through.

Guess what?

These moments are also when you process your difficult emotions.

Do you want to feel all the anger, grief, frustration, betrayal and pain while you're driving?

Or while you're trying to sleep?

Yeah, I didn't think so.

Unless you let it out at a healthier time, your unconscious will use those moments to do what it needs to do.

If you're lucky, that is.

Your unconscious might not let it all out then.

It might instead bury the pain deep.

When you process your discomfort, you can move through it. When you bury it, it's always there, eating away at you.

It might even erupt at some unexpected time in the future.

If that happens, who knows how much downtime you're in for.

It doesn't have to be this way, though. People talk about releasing the pressure because it's a great analogy. The earlier, more often and more thoroughly you vent the steam, the safer it is for everyone.

So that's one way to enhance your life.

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