What If You NEVER Put Your Self Worth & Self Love on the Line?

                                                 

As a Life Coach, my job is not only to support my clients to get clear on what they want and get it, but also to hold my clients as creative, resourceful and whole and ensure they are doing the same with themselves. Time and time again, I see my clients put their self worth and self-love on the line, in essence they stop treating themselves as creative, resourceful and whole. I wonder how would our lives be different if we ALWAYS chose to love ourselves? If we never put the power of our self worth and self love outside of ourselves (because after all aren't we ALWAYS at choice about how we feel about ourselves)?

We see it in ourselves time and time again. IF I get the role, THEN I'm worthy of love. IF I make the sale, THEN I'll love myself. IF I lose 10 pounds, THEN I'll feel OK about me. WHEN that guy/girl asks me out, THEN I'll feel worthy. You get the idea...Where in your life do you put your self worth & self love on the line? What would changing this HABIT mean for you?

We know we want to always be our own best friend, biggest fan, #1 supporter. But time and time again, we put ourselves up for grabs and GIVE our power away.

Try answering the following questions to put yourself back on track:

1) Where in my life do I consistently put my self worth and self love on the line?

2) How does this serve me? What is the gift of this habit? What am I getting out of it? (Really look deep here. Your first instinct might be to say, "it doesn't serve me", but upon closer inspection you might find that it keeps you comfortable or safe, feels familiar, distracts you or allows you to have an excuse as of why you feel so darn bad).

3) What is it costing me?

4) What do I want? (Perhaps you want to just be your own friend or treat yourself the way you treat others).

5) What am I WILLING to do to get what I want?

6) What is a way to keep myself in check?

7) Finally, commit to doing it! Some people like to have an accountability partner, make the new decision public, or write a contract for themselves. Do what works for you!

Try the above and see what happens. Here's to keeping our self worth and self love where they belong, with us at all times!

Amy Ahlers, CPCC, is a Certified International Coach and CEO of Wake-Up Call Coaching. She can be reached at http://www.WakeUpCallCoaching.com, info@WakeUpCallCoaching.com Make sure to sign up for the free Women Masters tele-seminar at http://www.TheWomenMasters.com

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Be Still - You've Got to Be Kidding?

                                             

Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth. Psalm 46:10

Be still and know that I am God. Can you even imagine being still? I think this verse was specifically written for the harried times we live in. You may be saying to yourself if I am still I will fall asleep. I have to keep moving to get everything done. Do you find it difficult in your quiet time to just be still and listen to God? Do you often start thinking of what you need to do tomorrow or get at the grocery? God is asking us to be still, quiet and know Him. We can't know Him if we don't spend time with Him. Have you ever noticed that you often feel closer to God when you are in nature? You take a walk in the woods or go to the ocean and you are in awe of His creation. I often think we feel closer to God in nature, because it is quiet. David was a shepherd, some of the disciples were fisherman - plenty of time to talk and listen to God. I remember several times in my quiet times that God continue to bring this verse to my mind and rest in Him.

Are you afraid of the quiet? As working Moms we are always busy and stopping to think is not always a luxury we have. It is almost if we slow down everything will come crashing down. Do you allow yourself those quiet moments with yourself and God? I know this is really hard if you have young children - you often don't even get to go to the bathroom. If you do get to go to the bathroom it seems you are hardly there alone. Make time to be still and know. Don't pray for others or yourself, take time to listen to what God has to tell you. You will be blessed by being still and knowing God.

Word of Encouragement:  God knows we are busy, yet He patiently waits for us to talk with Him. I would encourage you sometime this week to take 15 minutes to 1/2 hour to just be still and know God. Listen for his still small voice. Don't be surprised if this is hard to do, but the rewards are worth it. Listen to Him.

Prayer Thought:  Lord, you know it is hard for me to turn my brain off sometimes. It is hard for me to focus on you. Help me to take the time to just listen to you and bask in your glory. Help me to learn to depend on You and all your knowledge. Help me in this fast paced world to be still.

© 2004 Kimberly Chastain

About the Author

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and author of the Voices of Christian Working Moms and two ebooks. To find out more go to http://www.christianworkingmom.com For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com

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