What If You NEVER Put Your Self Worth & Self Love on the Line?

                                                 

As a Life Coach, my job is not only to support my clients to get clear on what they want and get it, but also to hold my clients as creative, resourceful and whole and ensure they are doing the same with themselves. Time and time again, I see my clients put their self worth and self-love on the line, in essence they stop treating themselves as creative, resourceful and whole. I wonder how would our lives be different if we ALWAYS chose to love ourselves? If we never put the power of our self worth and self love outside of ourselves (because after all aren't we ALWAYS at choice about how we feel about ourselves)?

We see it in ourselves time and time again. IF I get the role, THEN I'm worthy of love. IF I make the sale, THEN I'll love myself. IF I lose 10 pounds, THEN I'll feel OK about me. WHEN that guy/girl asks me out, THEN I'll feel worthy. You get the idea...Where in your life do you put your self worth & self love on the line? What would changing this HABIT mean for you?

We know we want to always be our own best friend, biggest fan, #1 supporter. But time and time again, we put ourselves up for grabs and GIVE our power away.

Try answering the following questions to put yourself back on track:

1) Where in my life do I consistently put my self worth and self love on the line?

2) How does this serve me? What is the gift of this habit? What am I getting out of it? (Really look deep here. Your first instinct might be to say, "it doesn't serve me", but upon closer inspection you might find that it keeps you comfortable or safe, feels familiar, distracts you or allows you to have an excuse as of why you feel so darn bad).

3) What is it costing me?

4) What do I want? (Perhaps you want to just be your own friend or treat yourself the way you treat others).

5) What am I WILLING to do to get what I want?

6) What is a way to keep myself in check?

7) Finally, commit to doing it! Some people like to have an accountability partner, make the new decision public, or write a contract for themselves. Do what works for you!

Try the above and see what happens. Here's to keeping our self worth and self love where they belong, with us at all times!

Amy Ahlers, CPCC, is a Certified International Coach and CEO of Wake-Up Call Coaching. She can be reached at http://www.WakeUpCallCoaching.com, info@WakeUpCallCoaching.com Make sure to sign up for the free Women Masters tele-seminar at http://www.TheWomenMasters.com

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