The Discipline of Self-Discipline

                                         

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First you establish your goals, and then you enforce a strict set of disciplines necessary to cross the finish line of achievement. Every act of self-discipline moves you toward your goals, and every exception takes you off course.

You may be tempted to pooh-pooh away this statement as something so obvious, however before you do, ask yourself this important question: "Based on my goals set, am I ahead, on or below target?

The answer to that question is directly tied to your willingness and ability to remain focused on the key actions necessary for success.

The FACTS are simply this; you are either buying or selling. If you are on, or better yet ahead of target than you are a seller. You have sold yourself on the importance of discipline and have stayed focused in spite of the world of options and temptations that circle you all of the time.

If you are below target than you are a buyer. You have bought the same excuses that have led so many others down the pathway of mediocrity. The things you buy are procrastination; lack of discipline and whatever else is your poison of choice.

Remember this absolute rule of discipline; "If you don't discipline yourself, you are sure to be disciplined by others". Don't believe me, huh? Chew on this, run up your credit cards real high, be late on a few payments and see how quickly those companies are to teach you a thing or two about discipline.

I repeat, "If you don't discipline yourself, you are sure to be disciplined by others".

To CREATE HISTORY you must become a seller. Sell yourself on the power of your goal; your vision for what is possible. To REPEAT HISTORY all you have to do is continue to be a buyer. Buyers consume not only products from the store but also excuses from their minds. It, meaning success and failure all begins within the parameters of your own mind and the disciplines of your behavior.

We are all walking, talking power struggles: head vs. heart...intellect vs. emotion. Many leave the steering to their emotions and merely bring their intellects along for the ride. Your goals or your excuses, which is running the show in your life?

Contrary to popular belief, freedom does not arise from "letting it all hang out;" freedom is the result of a personal triumph over excuses and bad habits. Excuses such as procrastination are like toxic waste to your potential.

To experience true freedom, you must prove to yourself that you are the master of your own destiny. Never are you less free than when you are held hostage by your excuses and lack of discipline. When lack of discipline and excuses rule, enslavement and mediocrity, not freedom, follows!

Bad habits are the gravitational pull of your emotional life, and overcoming them is not easy. Change is challenging. Surrender is tempting, and it gets tastier with practice. The good news is that it takes less energy to remain disciplined than to regain it.

The only bad news about self-discipline is that it is so easy to give up. Every compromise in behavior (nice word for excuse) greases the wheels for another compromise. Make a personal "no exceptions policy," and stick to it.

Self-discipline is an act of cultivation. Self-discipline requires you to connect today's actions to tomorrow's results.

There's a season for sowing, a season for reaping. Self-discipline helps you know which is which.

Winners prepare and anticipate behind closed doors. Lay the groundwork for success carefully: Effective preparation and self-discipline are closely allied. Do your homework. Since most people are rarely well prepared, you will often succeed by default. When opportunity presents itself, burst out of the starting gate, sprint to the finish line, and take home the prize.

Do what needs to be done. Quality living requires you to make difficult choices and sacrifices; it demands that you do the hard work first. You cannot arrive at true success without making the trip.

Self-discipline is a habit. It is not situational, but it is applied situation by situation. Anyone can be self-disciplined on occasion, but to get consistently positive results requires consistency.

It is the day-in day-out practice of self-discipline that determines where you'll end up. After all, a lifetime is an accumulation of moments, days, weeks, months, and years.

What you do during each moment counts and influences the degree to which you judge your life to be a success. If you aspire to achieve your goals, you must be prepared to play every play as though the two-minute warning clock is running. Every move is significant. Every move counts!

Everyone struggles with self-discipline. The question is not "Do I..." but "Where do I need to exercise greater self-discipline?" The discipline you establish today determines the successes you'll enjoy tomorrow.

The strenuous life tastes better. When it comes to self-discipline, a key driver of success, EVERYTHING COUNTS!

Gary Ryan Blair

Gary Ryan Blair is President of The GoalsGuy and the author of Everything Counts! 52 Remarkable Ways to Inspire Excellence. Everything Counts! is a call to greater awareness of the small details that impact results.

Gary can be reached for speaking, coaching and media requests at 877-462-5748. Visit Everything Counts - http://www.everythingcounts.com and download a Free MP3 titled: Do It Right the First Time!

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Do Yourself A Favor--Forgive

                                        

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"Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." Buddha

I can't count high enough to number the people in my clinical office and in my seminars who have argued... "He/she doesn't deserve to be forgiven after what happened. I just can't let him/her get off scott free!"

Yet scientific evidence has clearly demonstrated that it is the person who chooses to hold the bitterness that pays the price...not the perpetrator. Little by little, your feelings about that person bleed into the rest of your life, negatively coloring your view of other people and your attitude. It's like dropping one drop of red ink into a beaker; soon all the water is pink. Months and years of refusing to forgive weakens your immune system, damages your other relationships, and robs you of psychological health. Picture yourself perpetually tied to that person! Ouch!

Forgiveness is not sweeping the situation under the rug, excusing the behavior away. Forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean that you keep yourself in a dangerous or destructive situation. Nor does forgiveness require a "loving" feeling.

Thoroughly confused? Good. It's misconceptions like these that have kept many from reclaiming their own lives.

So what is forgiveness? I recently heard a great definition from Dr. Charles Stanley: "Forgiveness is giving up my right to hurt you for hurting me."

Forgiveness is a decision, a choice. It's a deep personal and spiritual transaction in which you choose to let go of plans or fantasies of revenge, and to release yourself from the burden of psychologically or physically "evening the score." Someone wisely said, "If you're always trying to get even, you'll never get ahead."

Sometimes reconciliation with the person is possible, and sometimes it's not. If the other person is willing, you may be able discuss what happened and make mutual plans for a better relationship in the future. (Caution: Avoid the holier-than-thou approach, like "Being perfect and full of grace myself, I forgive you, you horrible person, for the things you did to hurt me!" Be sure that you're willing to take responsibility for the part you played in the problem.)

In other situations, reconciliation of the relationship is not possible. Maybe the other person refuses to change, and the truth is, if you totally let down your guard, the same thing will happen all over again. It may be that the person you need to forgive is not even alive. Sometimes, you simply have to do business internally, between you and God.

Will you feel better immediately? Maybe. But don't expect all your bad feelings about that person to vanish. In fact, the next time you see him or her, you may find yourself in an emotional battle that causes you to question whether you really have forgiven. Don't get drawn into a mental rehash of all the things that happened. No, immediately focus on the positive decision you made, and remind yourself that after the decision comes the process of emotional healing. (Asking for divine help about now certainly won't hurt!)

What about forgetting? If you don't forget, have you really forgiven? I disagree with many on this. I believe that as a human with a brain that is a super-recorder, you will have a physical memory of the events, even when you've truly forgiven. So don't tell yourself that if you still remember what happened, you must not have done it right.

The crux of the "forgetting" matter is this: are you choosing to remember, to internally rehearse the situation over and over, and to watch and wait for the person to experience "what goes 'round comes 'round"? If so, go on back to your "forgiveness closet", because you have some more work to do.

Thomas Fuller said, "He that cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself, for every man has a need to be forgiven."

Do yourself and all those you love a favor...release those who have harmed you. As you do, you will release yourself.

Dr. Bev Smallwood is a psychologist who has worked with organizations across the globe for over 20 years. Her high-energy, high-content, high-involvement Magnetic Workplaces (r) programs provide dozens of practical strategies and skills that can be put to work immediately to:

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Choose Your Best Life: Where Are Your Choices Leading You?

                                                         

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According to the dictionary choice means "to select freely after consideration, to have a preference for, to take an alternative and of high caliber." Based on this definition, I believe choice is the act of careful selection, identifying preferences and exploring quality alternatives that lead to freedom. How often do we approach our choices in such a deliberately thoughtful way?

As a business owner, it's important to note that choice speaks to your commitment to building and growing your business while looking at all possible available options. Choice involves thoughtful decision-making and focuses on doing and being your best in life. More importantly, choice implies that there is an opportunity to have freedom and victory in all that you do. Here's an approach to mastering the art of choice so you can propel your business and life forward:

o Consider your business mission. Use your mission as a guide for what's appropriate in, and specific for, your business. By the way, making the right choices for your business is nearly impossible if you don't have a mission. (It means you also have no framework with which to operate your business.)

o Consider your business priorities. This consideration will help you focus on what's important and tie your choices to these priorities. Review and repeat this consideration to account for changes in priorities based on other factors like timing, market information, or new opportunities.

o Have clear business goals; match them to your business mission. Your mission partnered with clear business goals are guidelines for clear targets like your ideal client and defined niche. Revisit and revise your goals regularly so that your choices are consistently aligned with your mission and priorities.

o Identify what you're willing to do to support your business mission and priorities. These intentions represent your commitments to act. Keep these intentions at the forefront of your choices and ultimately your actions. Intentions reinforce your responsibility to build and maintain your business.

o Exercise courage by acting on your mission, priorities, goals and intentions. Engage others to hold you accountable to your actions. It's easy to think we can do it alone but why would you want to when you have others who are able and willing to support you. Are you your best accountability partner?

o STRETCH -- Take risks and expand opportunities to do "one more thing" to act on your mission, goals, priorities and intentions. Look at how you build "one more thing" into your daily, weekly and monthly tasks. It's all about moving forward.

By mastering the art of choice, you recognize the power you have to choose what happens in your life and business. It sounds simple and easy...and it truly is! When you underscore what's really important you're well on your way to mastering the art of choice. Prepare yourself for the freedom and fulfillment you're creating. Remember, it IS a choice!

Wendy Y. Bailey is a Personal and Business Coach with Brilliance In Action Enterprises, Inc. This professional coaching organization helps women business, entrepreneurs and business professionals blend their personal and business lives successfully while creating a profitable business. This article is an overview of the audio workshop entitled, Choose Your Best Life. The CD containing the principles for mastering the art of choice may be purchased at [http://www.ebrilliance.net].

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Importance Of Playing Games In Our Lives

                                         

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Importance Of Video Games

Most of our kids play games because they like it and yes they should like it because it keeps their mind fresh. A genuine gamer will play a reasonable amusement dependably. He should have a cool and charming temper. Recreations cultivate a soul of fellowship and co-activity among the players. A sportsman must forfeit his own enthusiasm for the benefit of the group and consider the amusement important. There are many diverse categories of games some are for PC, some for consoles, some for other types of gaming systems but I think that PC Games should be given more importance because of the other types of healthy activities that can be done on it while playing games. Free world games such as GTA V and GTA San and reas should also be played because the player in ti can do anything which tells us the mentality level of the game player. One who plays games he will take distinct fascination to win. At the point when an amusement turns into a calling, a genuine work of life, never again remain a diversion to the players. Consequently, diversions ought to be played for satisfaction, joy and entertainment. On the off chance that played in the correct soul, recreations turn into an imperative piece of life - a superior and also a healthy life, it teaches different types of feelings as well as it activated our minds therefore I will say that gaming is very important.

Facts About Games:

>Video games engulf our very core with gameplay that mystifies us, stories that thrill and amaze us and characters that live forever in our memory. There are so many small hidden stories and facts behind all the games that we have enjoyed and cherished. Let's look at some of them:

>If you ever pitied Rockstar's GTA for getting all the negative reviews, you can save your pity. Because Rockstar games paid to get negative press for its GTA series.

>The highly successful FPS GoldenEye 007 was developed by a team who had never previously worked for any video games. 8 of 10 of its developers were totally inexperienced in the art of making video games.

>According to Toru Iwatwani, the creator of Pac-Man, he wanted to create a game that will attract women to play it. And the reason he chose Pac-man as always eating something was because he thought the women were always eating something. Source

>Robin Willams (famous Hollywood star) is a big fan of video games, so much so that he has named his kids after the character of popular video games - Zelda (The legend of Zelda) and Cody (Final Fight).

CONCLUSION:

Games are not a wastage of time but a good and healthy thing and activity.

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